Spicing Up The Bedroom!!

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Let’s chat about spicing up the bedroom. For some of us, there are times when sex can get a little…well…boring. I’m just being honest. Boredom can come into any relationship, no matter how sexually active you are. But, I’m not talking about boredom in the sense that you’re bored with your partner but bored with the type of sex you’re having. So think of this as a refresher course for your sex life. I told you about how sex can make you healthy let me push in the direction of fun sex. Now I want you to keep an open mind, and be honest with yourself and partner about where you are in your sex life.

Get In Their Head

Everyone knows that in order to throw your opponent off their game, you have to get in their head. Well, you aren’t trying to throw your opponent off their game but you are trying to get into your significant other’s head. You have to get them in the mindset of sex. One of the best ways to do this is by sexting. No, you don’t have to send naked pictures (not unless you want to). But you do have to send them some texts about what’s on your kinky mind.

Your text can be some sort of sexy riddle, or very blunt. Here are some examples, “when you come home there will be something on the bed waiting for you”. To go along with that you can say something like, “follow the line of clothes leading up to the bedroom.” I’m not good at creating riddles but you get the point. If you are blunt then tell them, “you and me have a meeting in the bedroom tonight.” The goal is to let them know what you’re wanting when they get home.

You want to send them a text a few times throughout the day. Why? Because people can get busy and forget about what they talked about 5 minutes ago let alone an hour ago. But don’t overdo the texts.

Spicing Up The Location

Ok, chances are the last 10 times you had sex it took place in your bed. So how about we shake things up a bit. If you want to stay in the house, find another area of the house to do it in. Maybe you can give the kitchen a spin or the living room. Let your mind really go free here. Send the kids off to their grandparents or another family member’s house for the weekend. While they’re gone just take your sexual journey all over the house.

Now if you are up for a little challenge you can be more adventurous here, but keep it legal (or at least don’t get caught;). Chances are right now the parks are pretty scarce, this could be a prime opportunity to give it a whirl.

When the movie theaters open back up go there, check out a movie that no one is really going to see during matinee time. Theater seats recline now so use that to your advantage. I’m not going to give you all of the good spots, you have to do some thinking for yourself. Keep in mind that you’ll need to take precautions when you are having sex in public.

Spicing It Up With Role Playing

You’ve heard of role-playing before, right? Well, it’s time to put it to practice. People role-play for different reasons. For the purpose of this post, we’re role-playing to have fun. Before we dive into role-playing, even more, I want to put this warning out there to you. DO NOT ROLE PLAY SO YOU CAN HAVE YOUR PARTNER BE YOUR EX OR ANYBODY ELSE. If that’s what you want to do, well we have some other issues that have to worked out.

Role-playing can be so much fun if you just stick with it and get into character. Role-playing might feel a little awkward at first. It helps to remember that you’re doing this with the person you love and they may look just as goofy as you feel. This is another time that you can let your imagination run free. You guys might have a fantasy that you want to act out. Now is the time to do it.

Let Me Introduce You To My Little Friend

We can’t talk about spicing up the bedroom without discussing sex toys. Stick with me here, I know this can be a little taboo and scary for some but it’s helpful. Why not get a little extra help in the bedroom? Sex toys range from blindfolds to sex furniture. It’s up to the two of you to decide what you use.

Here are some popular toys, dildos, vibrators, cock rings, and lube. They all have their specific uses but it’s how you use them that is going to bring the spice. Take lube for instance, it can not only bring extra wetness to the vagina but it can be used to assist with anal sex. Dildos will be like having another person joining in on the fun but without the extra body. Vibrators will help with reaching an explosive orgasm. Finally, the cock ring can be useful in keeping your man stronger longer.

Honorable Mentions

Here are some honorable mentions handcuffs, blindfolds, and whips. I know I’m stretching you, right? But you’ll thank me later. These devices are great fun to let one of you take control of sex. Using handcuffs and blindfold will take away your partner’s major functions seeing and touching. Because they can’t see and won’t be able to use their hands’ chances are they are going to have a lot of excitement and very sensitive to your moves. Which means they will be very grateful for the orgasm they’re about to have.

The whip can be used to tickle or spank. You don’t want to go crazy with the whip and get your partner back for all the times they made you mad. Be playful with the whip and make it enjoyable. Throw in a few nibbles in between spankings. You are in for a treat because your partner will be super aggressive and ready to pay you back for teasing them.

All of these ideas will have you in for a good time. I just gave you the blueprint now you have to put in the details. Remember, we are getting out of the same old same old and bringing in the spice. If there are things that you haven’t done since you were dating, now is the time to do it. Stay opened and expressive when doing this. Most of all have fun and be safe!!

I want you to refresh your sex life. I know how hard it can be to keep it up and make sure everyone is satisfied. Sex is a very important part of relationships that we should not neglect. It is a form of communication and if you aren’t communicating in your relationship then your relationship will go through some struggles. Have plenty of fun and exciting sex!

Songs of Songs 1:2 NCV Kiss me with the kisses of your mouth, because your love is better than wine.

Let me know what you thought about this post. What spicy ideas can you up with to make your sex life more exciting? You can find me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @itsashleyjw.